A while ago, I posted about the top five blind girl perks, and in that post I mentioned the existence of blind girl myths. Well lovelies, here they are.
Top Five Blind Girl Myths
- Blind girls are saint’s, they don’t date based on hotness or looks.
This is 100% wrong. Blind girls care about attractiveness just as much as their sighted counterparts, maybe even a little more. Let’s toss away the saintly label and get realistic. We were all raised with the same societal norms. The fact that we cannot initially see what someone looks like does not mean we don’t care what they look like. Everyone values fitness, cleanliness, and attractiveness. In addition to asking our friends and family to describe a would-be boyfriend’s appearance, we use our other senses to judge physical attractiveness. Sure, the color of someone’s hair doesn’t matter too much, but its texture and length does. Where my sighted girlfriends are attracted to a smile or the color of someone’s eyes, I am attracted to someone’s voice. Strictly speaking, you can’t go wrong with deep, masculine voices, but there are other qualities a voice can possess that are difficult to put into words. I just hear someone speak, and I know. Also, a voice expresses just as much emotion as someone’s face. Don’t believe me? Watch a movie with me and I’ll tell you when I hear someone smile. The way someone talks and acts is often a strong predictor of attractiveness as well. It is easy to hear confidence. It might sound funny, but I do pay attention to how people smell. It’s not like I mean to, I just…observe it. This speaks to how well the person I’m with takes care of themselves. I’m attracted to guys with good personal hygiene; minty breath, deodorant wearing, clean clothes, and the right amount of cologne. I think guys underestimate these things in general, no matter who they’re dating. Last but not least, for those people that think blind girls have lower standards of attractiveness, keep this in mind. We will get a good idea of what a guy looks like eventually, even without sighted input. If we touch a guy’s arm, we know how muscled they are. When we kiss someone, we find out about their facial hair. When we hug, we gage body type and sense of style. This is not to say that blind girls go around judging everyone acting like little cleanliness prisses, it is merely to point out that hotness and looks matter as much to us as everyone else.
- Blind girls are easy, they’re grateful for whatever attention they get.
No man, we definitely are not. This myth is by far the most damaging. This type of thinking is the prelude to the differently-abled #MeToo movement that was never really talked about. This thinking is the reason why differently-abled women are three times more likely to be assaulted than their able-bodied friends. Blind girls are not universally desperate, easy, or sexually pitiable. We are, however, universally targeted, especially women of intersectionality who are differently-abled and racially discriminated against. For these reasons among others, I would say that blind girls are traditionally more relationship cautious than sighted women, not less.
- Blind girls never wear make-up, right? How could they put it on?
Sigh There are ways to put on almost any make-up. Sure, there are blind women and girls who do not wear make-up, but plenty of sighted girls don’t as well. And yes, putting on make-up has more complications for blind girls, but it’s not impossible. If anyone’s interested, I’d be happy to do a YouTube video on mirror-less make-up later on.
- When a blind girl’s outfit doesn’t match it’s because the poor dear can’t figure out how to coordinate her outfit, not because they are making a fashion statement or just didn’t care that morning.
Blind girls can wear whatever they want. We usually know if something doesn’t look great, sometimes we just don’t care. When a sighted chick wears something different, she’s making a fashion statement/being her own cool self. When a blind girl does this, we’re somehow pitiable and incompetent. Check yourselves before making assumptions based on stereotypes is all I’m saying. *BTW, I doubt any of you lovely followers think this way, I’m just debunking myths here, not complaining. I honestly don’t care that much about what people think of my outfits. I have a very cooperative little sister who gives fantastic fashion advice; if I choose to not bother with said advice for a day, that’s on me.
- The crowning glory, blind girls are not attractive.
“Oh yes, there’s just something about not being able to see the food in front of me that really packs on the pounds!” “I didn’t even know those doughnuts were there, and I’m just gaining weight by being near them!” These are quotes from my blog assistant bestie. She found the idea laughable, but unfortunately, many people place a lot of stock in this myth. My blind peers and I have actually been told things like: “you’re too pretty to be blind.” “You’re obviously not blind, you’re too thin.” Like, seriously, where does this crap come from? Body types and good skin have nothing to do with having, or not having, sight. If you’re suggesting they do, you need to revisit grade nine biology. The idea that blind women and girls are not attractive is likely perpetuated by stereotypes of blindies not being able to take care of themselves. Well world, I have some news. We blindies are fully able to wash our faces and get on the elliptical. I wouldn’t recommend running down the street with earphones in, but there are other ways of staying in shape.
Okay, there’s the top five blind girl myths. Sorry for all the angst, these myths were just so redic’ I couldn’t debunk them without some strong words and eye rolls.
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